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[#37 英國倫理十個結婚九個離?! 小朋友一齊養無問題後父後母勁普遍?!]

呢排識多左local既朋友，當中包括好多有小朋友既家長，有時大家傾下傾下計，都會談及家庭既事同埋時間分配，因為做家長，堅係無哂私人時間比左條命個囝/囡。


咁呢日肥蕎仔係屋企門口同隔離屋d小朋友係度玩，咁我又見對面屋d小朋友出哂黎，然後又見到個大概10歲開頭既金毛女仔，佢係成日都只係禮拜五、六日先出現，咁我都不以為意，以為佢好乖咁一至四都認真讀書無出黎玩。佢次次經過我門口都會主動同我打招呼，所以我係覺得佢好有禮貎，今日又見到佢玩緊scooter，自然又吹下水。


我: Hey, you okay? Where are you heading to? You only play on Friday, Saturday and Sunday? I don’t see you around during the other weekdays.


小鬼妹: I am heading to the park over there to play with my friends. No, I live in Worsley and I only come here at the weekend to live with my mum.


我: Oh, so you have two places to live? Which one do you prefer?


小鬼妹: I like it here more as I could hang out with the neighbours. The place where I live in Worsley is relatively quiet and I could only stay home watching TV and play games. My dad lives there.


言下之意係佢地父母分開左，係兩個唔同地方住，難怪我成日見對面間屋個男人，同呢個女仔點都好似唔太似樣… 唔知佢老豆會唔會覺得我好似成日做緊野但又好似好唔專心咁望下佢。後來係第二d時間我收工返黎又見到呢個女仔又傾多左計，先知道佢父母係離左婚，法庭協議左一個星期每人湊幾日，而佢過黎Salford呢邊住既呢個男人本身都有一個仔，佢稱佢為 “細佬”，但我見佢就好少同佢 “細佬”玩，通常自己一個scooter周圍去好鬼自由。


後來同同事傾傾下計，發覺有幾個同事都有小朋友，但都無再同老豆一齊，d老母係出去dating好鬼happy。又然後有d客人好鬼熟吹水吹得好deep，講埋屋企發生咩事，而家邊度住，雖然唔排除有吹水成份，但呢度離婚分開住係超級無敵普遍，好似7-11咁，梗有一個係左近既感覺，佢地話 “doesn’t work out”，一齊 “最緊要happy”，唔happy “一齊都無q用”。


又然後其實我黎英國前已經知道外國好開放，呢d野好閒。但當我知道有個客，都幾索架，同我傾計話佢最初有三個小朋友，然後又doesn’t work out，同左第二個一齊又有兩個小朋友，然後又doesn’t work out，到而家又同左新佬一齊，新佬有問要唔要小朋友，呢獲佢就未生住，但so far都生左5個，不得了，感覺有小小似動物王國，呢個地頭呢隻獅子稱王就生幾個，到佢倒台第二隻頂上又幫佢生幾個。呢件事真係有小小，小小，小小咁多顛覆左我既倫理價值觀。


呢樣野可能apply係而家候生一輩，我發覺我問d年紀大小小既同事，大概50或者60歲個d，佢地又唔會咁樣，通常一個家庭完整d。而佢地又唔會理佢地既仔女點做，思想十分開放。

我d客同同事都成日問我 are you going to have another baby after buying your house? 我普遍都會搞個爛gag: are you going to take care of the baby for me? 佢地呢度係要起碼兩個，開心既話3至4個先happy，對佢地黎講亦都好common!


我想像緊如果有3-4個小朋友，個老豆係有幾忙，只能說Oh my god! 然後我發覺呢度既男人又無乜野，假如個女仔係有bb都無乜問題，我有問: how are you going to stay with the kid? 佢地都會答: introduce yourself and treat him like your son/daugther。


難怪成日外國人都會領養孤兒或者養子/養女，佢地覺得只要你付出真心，好多野都唔係問題，好好既例子就係之前有個亞裔女仔奧運游水羅左冠軍，原來係一個白人家庭領養左佢，大個左為國爭光。


係香港識過一d離左婚既爸爸/媽媽帶住小朋友都猶豫緊黎唔黎英國，驚十分吃力。坦白講開頭settle down係要d時間同心力，堅持過後呢度分分鐘會搵到第二春都唔出奇，而且亞裔面孔係呢度係會變左勁候生，好多外國人都勁鐘意，我太太返工d同事以為佢岩岩廿歲出頭比我搞到有個3歲既肥蕎仔，我心諗有無咁離譜，咁我咪差d衰11? ! XDDD


相信你心態正面、與時並進，對關係坦誠，唔好好似林奠咁每日謊話連遍谷人打科興，咁就一定有機會搵返一個岩你既人sweet sweet。

--------- √ 係外國生3個係十分普遍，強國都鼓吹緊生3個，不得了。


√ 呢度放產假係有52週，仲要福利好，一年生bb仲有人工收，比你生唔生先?


√ 呢度d奶平過水，唔食飯淨係飲奶都應該可以飽既。 ---------







 
 
 

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